5 years after the worst day in my life





5 years ago today, about this hour, I found my wife wanted to exit my life. In the last 5 years, she has not had a serious conversation with me and it hurts deeply. However, my love for her has only grown, and I will continue to do what I can to restore that wonderful gift the Lord gave us both.

I am composing an email to send to all those in the “Naming Names” video in an effort to reconcile one or more relationships. It was my intent to send it today, but work issues have distracted me. But since it is the anniversary, I thought it would be good to bring you up to date.

I expressed my intent in the ‘Gal 2:14 “before them all”’ video (http://family.kozlowski.org/2017-06-24). Today’s video is attached and also at http://family.kozlowski.org/2017-07-12. For reference the “Naming Names” video is at http://family.kozlowski.org/2017-02-25.

You might find informative a recent discussion on “Preparing our kids to contend” (http://family.kozlowski.b:280/2017-06-29+2), “Holding Jobs” (http://family.kozlowski.b:280/2017-07-02+1), and “Isaac - My Encouragement” (http://family.kozlowski.b:280/2017-07-04+2) that I would like to share with all my sons.

My study of how contention defines love, and recently clarity on Gal 2:14 and 1Tim 5:20, plus the obvious love for my wife and kids, implores me to press on with renewed vigor and direction in another attempt to restore all or part of my family. To follow Christ, to love, there is no other option.

Please join me in this effort.

The Kozlowski Family ● An Attempt at Restoration ●












Love, Cowardice, Boldness; A Waterboarding Offer

Sun, Dec 17, 2017

Please note that this is dead serious as described and an open offer.

PLEASE Ask my wife

Sat, Dec 2, 2017

A serious request, in less than 2 minutes, to anyone who can contact my wife!

Do you bow the knee to the Lord or the Institution

Sat, Nov 25, 2017

An offer of dialog to the congregation, not the leadership.

What model does the religious leadership follow, past and present?

Sun, Nov 19, 2017

On October 31st of 2017, the very day marking the 500th anniversary of Martin Luther’s proclamation of the 95 Thesis, around 8 am I got a loud knock at my door from a detective from the Cleveland Police Department.

Update on Marriage, Divorce, Remarriage, Adultery, Mercy

Sun, Oct 29, 2017

If adultery is a new marriage, then the new marriage is not continued adultery.

Marriage, Divorce, Remarriage, Adultery, Mercy

Sat, Oct 14, 2017

This might make you very uncomfortable, or you might find the Lord’s marvelous mercy.

Institutional Fraud

Sat, Oct 7, 2017

This is a continuation of a challenge set before Covenant Presbyterian Church in Chattanooga, Tennessee last week which is a part of an effort to both restore a family and contend for the faith.

Challenge to Covenant Presbyterian Church

Sat, Sep 30, 2017

Does “test everything” (1Th 5:21) not include the institution?

Farmers Market, Store, Marriage

Sat, Sep 30, 2017

Jim Cross - Interpret Scripture with Scripture

Sat, Sep 23, 2017

There is a lot of content on this website in reference to Jim Cross, Sr., my father-in-law. It is now time to be specific, point by point. This first 10 minutes is simply the low hanging fruit.

Torture, Pastors, Elders, and Reconciliation

Thu, Sep 14, 2017

Luke 23:34 “…Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing. …”

Jim Cross and the least of these

Wed, Sep 6, 2017

Matthew 25:40 And the King will answer them, 'Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.'

Reconcile Salvo 1 ● I want my kids to know

Sat, Sep 2, 2017

Discernment, Contending, Reconciling

Tue, Jul 18, 2017

5 years after the worst day in my life

Wed, Jul 12, 2017

Benton Falls and a Serious look at Reconciliation

Sun, Jun 25, 2017

While the frame of reference is a hike to up Benton Falls, in Polk County, Tennessee, the subject matter is reconciliation, and specifically with my father-in-law, a PCA Elder, Jim Cross.

Gal 2:14 “before them all”

Sat, Jun 24, 2017

Jim Cross - Man to Man

Sat, May 20, 2017


Sun, May 7, 2017

The 276 girls in Chibok, Nigeria have long had a tug on my heart. The events of the last many hours has had a real impact on me.

Jim Cross Invitation

Sat, Apr 29, 2017

Broken heart offer

Sat, Apr 15, 2017

Attempting to reach my kids

Mon, Apr 10, 2017

Reconcile with Jim Cross

Thu, Mar 16, 2017

Naming Names

Sat, Feb 25, 2017

This is my effort to reconcile. I hope you will find an example of a man who has received the Lord’s mercy and is striving for mutual mercy with others.

Heart Attack

Wed, Feb 8, 2017

Offer Grace

Fri, Jan 27, 2017