While it was very short, I got an email from you today. WOW!!! In reading the words I could hear your voice and my heart felt the touch of your hand. It caused me a lot of disarray today as when the love of your life hints at communications and you don’t know what to do to make it continue. With our 28th anniversary this weekend, I have been wondering what to think and what to do. How do I love the woman who does not love me back? How do I fulfill Ephesians 5:25 in obedience to the Lord? What can I do to break down the walls between us?

To know how long it has been since I got an email from you, I looked for the last one. You sent 2 in January of last year, so about 16 months ago. One was on money, but you did not respond to me. The other was about how you were ignoring me, and you did not respond to me. However, your dad did. You might consider reading it (http://family.kozlowski.org/Email-2017-01-11). It has been online for a very long time. As stated in the voicemail, please look at what your dad wrote and what I wrote from the perspective of a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ. Who showed following the Lord and who was concerned about money? (Mat_6:24, Luk_16:13)

I reminded you of the video from late last year: “The person who loves you is not your dad it is me!” http://family.kozlowski.org/2017-12-02+1. I just watched it again and I stand by it. You wrote last year that you haven’t watched the videos. I suggest what you will find in them is a sinful man attempting to follow the Lord. You will see that the events of the last many years have matured me greatly. I have learned much of the Scripture, how to follow more obediently, and how to love. Love communicates. Love reconciles. Please open your eyes to see that kind of love in the videos.

If you were feeling bad and someone offered you heroin to ease the pain, would you consider that wise and loving? When someone points you to the state and says you can get out of your marriage, ignoring the fact that the Scripture says otherwise (such as Mark 10, Romans 3, etc.) would you consider that wise and loving or more like the heroin dealer getting you hooked on the world’s way? Please remember “The person who loves you is not your dad it is me!”

To also be clear, the money was sent early due to circumstances that I would be happy to discuss. There is no intention of increasing beyond what the state demands. I am going to do nothing to buy back your love. It will only be a shared love for the same Lord that will bring us reconciliation and then money questions can be discussed. I think that is reasonable and as always remain open to discussion.

I have no time for fluff. Perhaps that time will come. But for now, I must point you to the Lord and His ways. Love does not points you to the state (1Co6). Love points you to the Lord. Dorothy-Jane, I love you!